You’re ready to make changes in your life and family – how do you go about this? How do you get success – this time?
Support is the answer. As usual, I’ll recommend a StandUp Parenting support group – it has sure worked for me over the years. But also, identify those people in your life that will back up the considered choices you are making. A relative, friend, teacher, or grocery checker. At church, the gym or your coffee shop – it doesn’t matter. Be on the lookout for those who share your heartache and frustrations and will build you up – not tear you down.
Then compile your phone list. If you’re part of a parent support group, you’ll be given one. And call. When you’ve just blown your goal, call a like minded friend. When you don’t know what to do next call again. Drop by the gym, coffee shop or store and look up your support folks. Listen to them and give back, as well.
The flip side of support, though, are the nay-sayers. Those who think you’re making bad decisions, you’re being mean or can’t/shouldn’t change. Learn to disengage with these folks over your parenting issues. Change the subject, when possible. Listen, but stay neutral. If they insist on verbally pounding you, consider how you might minimize contact. Not always possible, but do what you can to protect yourself.
Get support for change and growth. You can do it!
